I've kicked players for wearing the wrong gear!

[TaleraRistain]

I am blunt

aggressive and emotional responses

You seriously don't see the connection here? I'm a blunt person as well. We need to be even more careful with our phrasing because it's so incredibly easy to be harsh. Being blunt does not excuse rudeness or harshness.

[SpiritMuse]

You seriously don't see the connection here? I'm a blunt person as well. We need to be even more careful with our phrasing because it's so incredibly easy to be harsh. Being blunt does not excuse rudeness or harshness.

This is what I'm thinking. When someone says they get bad responses almost all the time, that throws up a big red flag for me for their own behaviour. Tone is hard to convey in plain text, and things often come across as more harsh than intended. So "blunt" can quickly become "harsh", "rude" or "judgey" and, depending on the subject, "patronising" or "elitist". So you've got to take some extra care that you're actually coming across the way you intend to (which isn't the same as "sugarcoating").