First I would like to say, the ff14 community is one of the nices out there. Ppl talk and say hi, explain stuff if you are new to something they usualy arent mad if a mistake happens.
And I kinda get the reason behind the kicks, but I think its more damaging then helping. That person who just got kicked, wont improve in any way. Most of them will just keep going and worse, bc they had this experience, be even more stuck up to there point of view.
For me, I dont care what ppl are wearing. As long as we get to the end, im fine. If we start to die (no matter the gear of the movement) I just leave and seach for another group. Normaly that takes up to 5 trys and then Im out.