Quote Originally Posted by Baxcel View Post
Sorry if I wasnt specific.. My healer is my IRL partner who is bipolar, has anexity, depression and PTSD. So yeah im going make sure he's the one that's comfortable and the dps will tank what they pull till I'm ready for the next group.
See this is more of a grey area that I really have no experience covering, I was talking about in general with Duty Finder groups.
If that's the way your IRL partner is comfortable playing, all the power to them. Either way stress is going to be caused.

Quote Originally Posted by Drayce1 View Post
I go into dungeon pugs as pld only for a reason. If I deem the healer, dps or both too weak for mass pulls, I only pull two groups at a time and can keep myself up with clemency. If dps pulls more however, I let him die, unless they aggro healer. If healer pulls more, Ill take it off after letting healer take a beating for a bit to watch him heal himself back to full a few times, so he learns his lesson.

Overall though, its player impatience or overconfidence which is the reason why if I feel like tanking random dungeons, I go as pally.
The problem here is that your healer is going to heal the DPS, and do their end of the job & ultimately pull aggro either way. Even if they don't, they now have to heal a squishier source as well as you.