Unbelievable Rudeness!

[Durandallwyn]

I was watching my 13 year old daughter playing a trial boss. And some mouthy little entitled twerp started blaming her cuz she was panicking a little and the party wiped. She was in tears and left. Now she\\'s saying she never wants to play again.
She\\'s always been a bit sensitive and shy but enjoys final Fantasy games even the old ones I grew up playing. She was very proud of herself for getting into stormblood and kept saying she was looking forward to the new expansion. Her confidence level was starting to show and it was a great way for us to do something together.
You rude players out there need to stop expecting others to be like you! Be understanding! you don\\'t have most of the facts and can\\'t judge them nor blame them. You do not know what is going on in other people\\'s environments, various distractions occur, and stop freaking out cuz your video game wasn\\'t perfect.

[Fredco191]

As a fellow kid playing an MMO. This is just something she’ll have to get used to.

[Durandallwyn]

Maybe playing single player games without others is better as to avoid cyber bullying.

[NessaWyvern]

Maybe playing single player games without others is better as to avoid cyber bullying.

Yeah, it can be tough as a kid on MMOs sometimes, I started playing MMOs when I was 12, and I got cyberbullied back then.
Unlike RL bulling though, at least you can blacklist so you never have to read that person's vitriol again.
Perhaps help teach her about how to deal with these situations online, like the report and blacklist functions. Continue to supervise her while she is playing, and if someone says something bad about her, tell her all the ways she's good at the game.
If that still doesn't work out, then I suggest waiting a few years, as people have said, this game is rated 16+

Perhaps only let her run dungeons with you in her party, and bring along trusted friends to help her, to try to build a friendly atmosphere for her.
You could disable her Party chat, and tell her what they say instead, so if there's anything nasty, she won't know about it unless you tell her.

[Xebric]

As a fellow kid playing an MMO. This is just something she’ll have to get used to.

This for sure. I'm not advocating for rude people, but what will happen when this happens at school, at work, or in her personal life? At some point she'll have to either suck it up or stand up for herself. The world is not going to change solely based on the needs of one person, but she can learn ways off dealing with rude people like that. My personal go-to is to just take a break from the game, cool off with Pac-Man or Dig Dug, and possibly report the person(s) for what they were doing if they were excessively rude. Yes, it's unfair that her fun time was ruined by some rude people on the internet, but dwelling and obsessing on it doesn't hurt those rude players. Moving on and dusting the incident off your shoulders and not letting it weigh you down is the best way to go about it in my experience. Also friends / family for consistent groups makes for pretty regular fun times instead of random groups.

[SannaR]

I'm sorry that she had to get a few rotten people in a trail. Let her calm down and help her out if you can. Did she tell em that she was new to the instance? If they knew it and still flipped out on her then yeah they suck. Also grats on you kid getting to stormblood. I tend to try and be the MT for people who are needing an understanding person in an important role or if possible be a co-healer.

[Wiccan026]

I was watching my 13 year old daughter playing a trial boss. And some mouthy little entitled twerp started blaming her cuz she was panicking a little and the party wiped. She was in tears and left. Now she\\'s saying she never wants to play again.
She\\'s always been a bit sensitive and shy but enjoys final Fantasy games even the old ones I grew up playing. She was very proud of herself for getting into stormblood and kept saying she was looking forward to the new expansion. Her confidence level was starting to show and it was a great way for us to do something together.
You rude players out there need to stop expecting others to be like you! Be understanding! you don\\'t have most of the facts and can\\'t judge them nor blame them. You do not know what is going on in other people\\'s environments, various distractions occur, and stop freaking out cuz your video game wasn\\'t perfect.

While I am sorry she got treated in that manner, at the end of the day it's an online game and you're going to encounter people like that. That doesn't mean it's justified or that it was accurate... but things like that do happen.

I mean I once caused an entire alliance to disband because I got into an argument with another alliance (sometimes calling people out, while doing it nicely and offering advice, even after multiple wipes.. can backfire in a huge manner)...and my friends who were in the run were kind of upset with me... even though they were voicing the same opinion on voice chat prior to the argument.

Than theirs the time when I was trying to learn levi after unsyched first became a thing and people kept getting mad at me for not picking things up quickly (it took like six full runs before I was fine.. and whats worth that was one fight that I had an easier time doing than watching the video).

[Sanctify]

Kids these days. When I was 13 I was playing vanilla WoW. Waaayyyyyy more provocative than this fairy tale. My advice, teach you kid to have tougher skin OR don't let your 13yr old play an online game. It's so different now than the old days, way more creeps and weirdos. Just look at some of the threads here, for example (looking at you ppl who want playable children).

[SturmChurro]

Kids these days. When I was 13 I was playing vanilla WoW. Waaayyyyyy more provocative than this fairy tale. My advice, teach you kid to have tougher skin OR don't let your 13yr old play an online game. It's so different now than the old days, way more creeps and weirdos. Just look at some of the threads here, for example (looking at you ppl who want playable children).

I think I was playing stuff like CoD (the good ones). That was an experience.

[Liam_Harper]

Kids these days. When I was 13 I was playing vanilla WoW. Waaayyyyyy more provocative than this fairy tale. My advice, teach you kid to have tougher skin OR don't let your 13yr old play an online game.

It says a lot when the victim is the one being blamed.

Yes the child will have to learn to handle it. No it still isn't acceptable. No you should not quit online gaming entirely if rude behavior upsets you, even adults can have a temporary break down over a particularly bad pug run. I would quite freely bet a lot of gil that at least half the playerbase has felt like not playing due to rudeness at some point.

Threads like these spread awareness. There's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes players who might be nice people otherwise have stressful days, get frustrated in a shaky run and snap and lose their temper, unaware who the person behind the screen might be or what effect their words might have. It might make a few people think twice before throwing abuse in their next run and even that one gesture prevents someone elses day being ruined.