Why are standards seen as a crime in this game?

[Krotoan]

If the entire group played like that you would never clear anything, so keep that in mind the next time you think it's appropriate to sandbag it and make your group pick up the slack.

Unfortunately this is the kind of player you encounter who's just gonna keep playing like they do. They're not a huge detriment, but they're making it harder. But it's not wiping levels of bad.. just.. frustrating. All you can do with them is try to help, like you have, and then when they reply.. , like they did, with "we didn't wipe it's fine!" .. make your case and move on. It's annoying for sure, but hardly gamebreaking or as prevalent as the OP seems to imply

a true healer knows their limit and as a barrier user i have little 2 no limit lol

Do you see the irony in the fact you expect a healer to know their limits and what they can handle.. but you won't bother to know the encounter beforehand? Or the fact you are sacrificing resources to heal to save.. what? DPS?