If you never felt that you were good enough to raid or do ultimates...

[Aristotle]

Savage raiding is about your willingness to slam your hand in a car door on a schedule a few times a week.

[Apriconi]

This was very uplifting I've mained as a healer during my entire duration of FFXIV (about 2 yrs) and am finally making the transition into maining a DPs class. I'm terrified to jump into a raid because I feel like my dps would be terrible in comparison of others. I practice my rotation on dummies but I just don't have faith of doing them well while actually performing mechanics. Honestly all I have to do is jump in and try. I use to be scared to raid as a healer but I finally got the courage to do so. Idk why DPs is scarier for me.

I always give myself the excuse of "I need a static" but I feel as though its hard to find one this late into the game. I know ShB is coming out soon but I really wanna get some DPs raiding practice in before it begins. Gah I just need to get over myself...

[Ceridwenae]

I love your positivity, OP.

Recently, I've been thinking I should try and get a group with some other people. I really go back and forth on this, though, for the following reasons (and others I don't need to mention):

I have social anxiety. In just ordinary dungeons or trials, I can be physically shaking with anxiety, even when I know the dungeon well. I have to literally tell myself to stop it and that works for the most part; but this is when I've had my husband playing with in party too, so it's not like I'm entirely "alone". In real world stuff, I can be pretty crappy to deal with as a result: up, down, non-communicative, won't shut up. I'm not, nor have I ever been, an overly sociable person, but that does not mean I do not want contact with other people! It's just very hard, I don't do small talk and can be a bit intense. It's understandably off-putting.

I'm photosensitive epileptic, so certain patterns, colours, light frequencies, can make things difficult at best, deadly at worse. Black and white contrasts? Patterns over them? No thank you, please. Though, this game doesn't really fall into the latter category, there have been issues along the way - World of Darkness and Tsukuyomi spring to mind. Swirly patterns and grids, and certain other graphics can screw up my already poor reaction time (which we'll get to), meaning I'm a potential liability in those moments. My eyes sometimes cross and I lose focus. Could be bad. XD

I have hand health issues, so can't always get those keys accurately - though I think I do pretty okay, even so. I also play on a potato, which is more likely the main problem regarding reaction time. This I am slowly working on fixing - one part at a time! - but it will be the best part of a year before that very fixable area is actually fixed. These two things combined though, plus the issues mentioned above, mean it feels inconsiderate to ask people to give up their time to effectively support me trying to play something that, when it comes down to it, may not even work. Of course, I know I won't know that until I try, but at the same time? I'm not entirely sure I should.

I'd need the most patient, kind people in the world, with lots of time on their hands, with the foreknowledge that some stuff, I may never be able to do, no matter how hard or how many times I try.

That said, I'll see how well I can fix the potato, and if that works out, I might swallow those nerves and actively try and find some people. I'm not going to care if they're the best players at that point, because I'm certainly not, but I'm going to give it a bloody good go and will expect the same. It will either work or it will not, but I won't know until I try.

Well done everyone else who sticks with it and wins or has fun trying, and good luck to anyone else like me who have yet to get a handle on this stuff. I wish you all many clears!

[Aurelius2625]

As I've said with my other static before the one that I'm in now, it was..... awful. We literally had to beg for a skip because we couldn't clear guardian guaranteed. It was pathetic. I had to prog Kefka and clear it, along with Godka, on my own. Of my over 50 or so clears of it to get glams and weapons/armor, I had to do it in a pug on my own. It was literally better in a pug, than in a static...which was supposed to be better than pugging. Don't worry. Pugs aren't so bad for the rep that they've been given. They are only as bad as people allow them to be.

At the beginning, I be sure to advert what I really want in the PF description, then, I'll be very blunt and clear in party chat for those that forgot/didn't read it. I'll be sure to clarify things and offer discord, clear up any problems, and do callouts. It's only as bad as people will let it be. Some of my best friends I made thru random PF's. What separates a static from a pug?

Communication?
Team work?
Coordination?

All of these things you can do thru discord of party chat.

[Nora_of_Mira]

Savage raiding is about your willingness to slam your hand in a car door on a schedule a few times a week.

except raiding can be very rewarding to those that commit and you can make friends with similar mindsets/timezones, which generally leads to you doing other things with them since you spend 2-3 nights a week together in chat.

i love the friends i've made because of raiding.

[Aristotle]

except raiding can be very rewarding to those that commit and you can make friends with similar mindsets/timezones, which generally leads to you doing other things with them since you spend 2-3 nights a week together in chat.

i love the friends i've made because of raiding.

Yes, absolutely! Nothing is more thrilling than clearing something tough with your friends. That still doesn't change my statement at all.

[Arazehl]

As long as we all remember that we all started low on the raiding totem pole once. Be helpful to those who are trying to learn. If you're new, be open to advice and guidance and don't feel offended when someone gives you tips. Most of all let the salt slide off your shoulders, and don't let pettiness spoil your fun.

[Vanitas]

Yes, absolutely! Nothing is more thrilling than clearing something tough with your friends. That still doesn't change my statement at all.

But there's nothing rewarding about smashing your hand in a car door...unless..you're into that sort of thing..

[Silica-chan]

Congrats on your achievement OP.
And while your story sounds nice and will probably give some people the confidence to challgent themselfs, I myself will never ever touch Ex or Savage content ever again. Throughout my entire time playing this game I never managed to kill something before Echo/Nerfs. Not even Bismarck which was supposed to be "easy" for the most people.
It's kinda crazy how silly I was to think I would have a chance at Thordan ex back when it was introduced. After 5 Weeks (and I was doing it 4-5 days per week for 2-3 hours per day) with several pf groups I never saw the fight past meteors which is nothing less than pathetic. Over those 5 weeks that fight shattered the confidence in my player abillity into nano bits and litereally crushed my fighting spirit. I simply gave up.
I never made it to recover from that "trauma" or desaster or whatever you want to call it, not even to this day years later. (Granted the fact that I made the mistake to jump into Susano and Lakshmi ex with the fc group didn't help either. They basicly killed it with 6 people since one healer was assigned to res me which was almost like a fulltime job for him.)

But enough of me crying over how much I suck. All I can do is wish you the best of luck on your way through Bahamut ultimate.

[van_arn]

If you don't feel you're good enough for Savage, then stay out of party finder until you can prove to yourself you are.