Quote Originally Posted by NocturniaUzuki View Post
Explaining "how to increase damage/healing" is not always a positive. By telling someone how to improve, you are suggesting improvement, the implication of which is that the person in question "should" improve. And more specifically, that they "should" improve in the ways you suggest.

If that method conflicts with the player's methodology, or if the player simply doesn't want to actively improve, it may actually come across more like shaming than an innocent suggestion. After all, we all have our own ways of playing the game. And effectively being told that one's way of playing is "wrong" is a surefire agitator. I would hazard a guess that this is also the #1 reason why game forums are often toxic.

I don't know whether I'd really blame FFlogs itself for this phenomenon. It's really down to human communication flaws. But I think FFlogs does facilitate and worsen the issue.
How information plainly given and which one can take or decline, especially when given only in a place by which to seek out improvement or where your underperformance is hampering others' play, is received is on the recipient alone. If they feel ashamed, it's because they believe they have something to feel ashamed about. If they rationalize it in a way that would require something from themselves and yet refuse to give it out of some emotional discrepancy with that finding... that's their own ordeal to handle. Others can provide the steps to bridge that disconnect or avoid the broken bridge entirely, but it's not our responsibility to push them one way or the other any more than to leave them unfazedly standing there in the middle of something they're clearly not ready for at our own expense.