Sexual harassment

[RiyahArp]

Such power structures really don't have to be pre-existing.

Well, i said it felt like an abusive ex. I don't think it can be called harassment though, those are two separate things. They have to be dealt with in two separate ways, and part of the way of preventively dealing with abuse is for you to be sure to protect yourself first by not rushing into a relationship without taking a long time to build trust. I feel sometimes we have this narrative where all the burden is on the other person, and people place way too much faith in others acting morally. Like the ideal and realistic clash.

Its just, well, the stakes are so high you can't be cavalier about escalating things.

its tough to write about this because i dont want to be seen as absolving the abuser. I mean, when people are in the wrong, they are in the wrong. But you don't want to get in the position of having to deal with one in the first place; you can only heal from injuries, not make it as if they never existed. I just really want to entreat people to protect themselves.