I would say parsing is necessary for progressing savage content just because there IS an enrage timer and the game fails to tell you that if you are ready for it. The enrage timer on extreme is basically none existing now and 4 men/24 men contents just require some knowledge for mechanics. For a new player that just hit 70 and done all content except savage, it is cruel that he/she are likely to be kicked/blacklisted after few attempts because of the poor design of the game. I've met some players doing abysmal DPS on savage and I believe most of them don't even know. SSS dummy fight is far from enough for meeting DPS check in real fight, not to mention that the fight isn't even gated behind SSS.

IMO, not having a parser is what breeds toxicity in this game. Imagine you are a player that finally finished the savage tier after months of pugging. One day you are farming O2S but somehow being told your DPS is low and asked to leave. What would be your first thought? I need to get better? probably not. It's more than likely that you think those players are elitist that ruining the game by parsing. But the thing you don't know is that you've been carried through the whole tier without knowing it. And suddenly stating the fact is considered a toxic behavior even though you are the one ruining others' experience. In this case the guy is lucky to get the clear. There are more people that are still struggling to clear the content without knowing that they are the reason for enrage. What will these people think when they see so many groups clear each week but theirs. They might straight out quit doing the content, even the game. Or potentially become toxic toward everyone struggling on the content easier than he is doing, even the people haven't seen enrage on same content. Isn't it sad how these happen just because the game doesn't inform you of such important thing?

However, for those who know their damage is bad but refuse to improve at all, you are the toxic one and you have no one but yourself to blame when you are booted for bad DPS. First, you think others are responsible for picking up your slack, if they refuse to do so they are getting reported/blacklisted. Secondly, why would you think others' are at fault for kicking you? You are kicked because SE allow players to do so. Blame SE for that. Lastly, SE granted the player the right to form the party they want and you know what kind of party you are joining beforehand. Blame yourself or SE.

DPS is absolutely not the most important factor in a raid. But dpsing is everyones job, when you are failing to meet the very basic requirement for the clear as your role, you deserve the kick in a clear/farm party. Again, that is not toxic, it is you that trying to ruin others' game experience and wasting their time. You should be paying their subs then, also, pay for their extra effort if they're not having fun. In OP's case, Healers and Tanks are carrying the group, a lot. If everyone is doing the DPS at OP's level, there will be no clear.

I saw some people think all us parsers want in party are speedrun level dps. I'd say that you are overestimating your skill and majority of players'. No one expect speedrun level dps in a farm party, they just expect "acceptable dps" for your ilvl. If you are kicked from farm party I can only assume that you are doing far, far, far from speedrun level dps.

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