Healing in 4man parties (The experience 60-70)

[Hestzhyen]

No offense, but it sounds like you went into healing with a lot of pre-conceived notions about how it's supposed go to and found room to complain because of that.

If you don't want the tank to pull more than one mob at a time, tell them up front. Even if they ignore you, at least you asked. But when people see a level 60 healer they expect that healer to be used to the break-neck pace of most dungeons. And again, even if you're ignored, nicely asking the tank to use CDs, pull less, do more to maintain aggro, etc. never hurts. Silently making a list of grievances to post on the forums doesn't solve the problem.

Also, asking "Why would you do that? There is no real need to pull all those mobs at once" is inviting people to be hostile since you're basically 1) telling them to SLOW DOWN without actually being polite about it and 2) being rude on your part by assuming tanks will read your mind and realise you don't want to sprint through the whole dungeon. Plus the way you worded it raises my hackles and I'm not even involved in all these messes you've apparently seen. Maybe politely communicate beforehand that you'd like to have a slower run? The worst they can do is say mean words to you over the internet, which you can report to a GM at the end of the run if they cross a line.

It honestly sounds like you've heard too much of your friend's venting and decided how that's how healing must be, all the time, forever. Get out of the mindset that everyone suddenly becomes 10x dumber and ruder when you're healing and you'll probably have a better time of it. The horror stories you hear about and read are usually far enough from the norm that they're worth sharing, not the standard.