DPS is the job of DPS.

[Reynhart]

So if you go tank in a dungeon and the 3 others in there ask you to do big pulls and you don't want to, do you leave then so they can get a tank willing to compromise? Or do you take the sacrifice and adjust even if it isn't what you personally want to do?

I'll explain to them why I won't do a speedrun, and if they don't understand, they'll have to deal with it or make a team with additionnal requirement. But, on the other hand, if I want a speedrun and the party won't handle it because of the tank or the healer (depending of the job I queued with), I'll either leave or deal with a slow run.

The fact that you have the expectation not to ever get kicked for differing playstyles is an expectation.

No, it's a violation of valid kick reason, that SE just don't want to investigate. If they ever add "Different Playstyle" in the kick window, I'll tak the kick without an issue...but it's the same as blatantly saying "kick all you wan't, we won't monitor it"