Dating & Romance Rant

[Wilford111]

To the females who are saying that a relationship is something that develops naturally out of a normal friendship.... I mean no disrespect, but I feel like that's not how it works of you're a male, since is traditionally up to the guys to make that push to relationship status. So it would make sense if, in a female's perspective, it would seem like it just happens.

Please forgive me if I'm wrong, I really don't want to come across as rude or ignorant. This is just how I feel about the situation.

[MoroMurasaki]

To the females who are saying that a relationship is something that develops naturally out of a normal friendship.... I mean no disrespect, but I feel like that's not how it works of you're a male, since is traditionally up to the guys to make that push to relationship status. So it would make sense if, in a female's perspective, it would seem like it just happens.

Please forgive me if I'm wrong, I really don't want to come across as rude or ignorant. This is just how I feel about the situation.

This is fair (though not 100% of the time for sure) but I think you need to be willing to put yourself out there to meet people as friends or potential girlfriends. If you meet someone as a friend and want more with them then take the chance and ask.

I get that it won't happen entirely organically but chemistry is a thing. To be able to see that someone finds you attractive means you first have to believe that might be possible which brings us back around to confidence.

[Iromi]

To the females who are saying that a relationship is something that develops naturally out of a normal friendship.... I mean no disrespect, but I feel like that's not how it works of you're a male, since is traditionally up to the guys to make that push to relationship status. So it would make sense if, in a female's perspective, it would seem like it just happens.

Please forgive me if I'm wrong, I really don't want to come across as rude or ignorant. This is just how I feel about the situation.

I can see what you mean (tradition)..however, I don't think its something a guy has to make any push.

If it is meant to be it will happen between both..mutually. Forcing or pushing anything, again is an instant turn off, no matter how long I've known the person. It should ideally work out on its own without either one really saying anything. My BF I met on FFXI 8 years ago that I mentioned earlier? He did not in the slightest give me the impression that he was in love with me, and he wasn't from the start (before speaking with me). I am sure he thought I was attractive, but he didn't push anything on me at all. He was "normal" as in, didn't hit on me, didn't try to push any feelings onto me, that is why I talked to him.

In the end we both kind of said...we are falling for each other, nearly the same night we both wanted to say the same thing to each other, we did, and then I dropped my life for him and moved to NYC, no regrets. It's all about just letting things flow naturally.

[raela]

To the females who are saying that a relationship is something that develops naturally out of a normal friendship.... I mean no disrespect, but I feel like that's not how it works of you're a male, since is traditionally up to the guys to make that push to relationship status. So it would make sense if, in a female's perspective, it would seem like it just happens.

Please forgive me if I'm wrong, I really don't want to come across as rude or ignorant. This is just how I feel about the situation.

I don't really agree, for either point. I guess I'm not exactly the traditional type of girl, but I've been the one to first express feelings in several of my previous relationships.

Buuuut, I also really dislike the attitude of "men and women can't just be friends, the guy is always on the prowl." I don't want every single guy that talks to me to size me up as a potential future partner within seconds of meeting me. Especially as that's essentially based entirely on looks, since personality takes time to get to know. But, I'm also not one who really lusts after looks.. I'm more attracted to the non-physical sides of a person.

Unless specifically first meeting someone through a dating website/app or being set up by a mutual friend, I don't see what's so strange about wanting to see if someone is fun to be around (pure friendship) before jumping to wondering about something more significant (dating).

[Darkobra]

To the females who are saying that a relationship is something that develops naturally out of a normal friendship.... I mean no disrespect, but I feel like that's not how it works of you're a male, since is traditionally up to the guys to make that push to relationship status. So it would make sense if, in a female's perspective, it would seem like it just happens.

Please forgive me if I'm wrong, I really don't want to come across as rude or ignorant. This is just how I feel about the situation.

Yeah, 30 year old male. You're definitely wrong.