As a very long time healer, I'll be the first to admit yes I do play very conservatively when grouped with randoms in terms of how much DPS I put out. It's not because I'm "lazy" nor is it because I want a "carry" It's because, well...I don't know you or the rest of the party. You can tell me all day you have all tanks max level. That really doesn't tell me anything. Did you learn to play the tank from the ground up? Did you just fate grind for faster que's? I don't know. I could look at your lodestone character page all day, all it is to me is a guessing game on which class you know vs ones you don't. You could very well be the best tank in the game for all I know. It takes a little more time then one simple dungeon to fully gauge a tank and find out what I can and can't get away with. Also, its not just about the tank. It's the rest of the group as well. I don't know their capabilities as much as I don't know yours. I can't speak for other healers, just myself.

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Quote Originally Posted by Deceptus View Post
Quite honestly, it makes me want to stand in said AOE, to get hurt as much as possible if the healers I'm grouped with only want to heal. Why should I work harder if they are not willing to as well?
This does not help the situation all in in showing me in that one fast dungeon that a tank is a capable tank while I'm still gauging the tank's abilities.