Zarabeth, you can wait 1 min for that last person to queue or it can be 40 min. The biggest issue I think the OP has really is the inability to change class/job without skipping a CS that may not be available at the inn. Honestly I don't see why the game can't automatically switch you to the class/job/gear set you were in when you queued when you hit accept. It would solve the problem described here, and has no downside I can see.