Let me do my job please...

[Genoreaper]

You started the dungeon with an asinine comment. It's easy content. In Dungrounded random aggro grabs Happen, if you can't handle tanking roll another class. You cry when dps steals your hate too?

[Takamorisan]

Tbh low level content is irrelevant, people want to get on with it really fast. Now if they do that sort of bullshit on High Level dungeons, there is this tool called shirk.

:^)

[Genoreaper]

You started the dungeon with an asinine comment. It's easy content. In Dungrounded random aggro grabs Happen, if you can't handle tanking roll another class. You cry when dps steals your hate too?

[Genoreaper]

Idk why that double posted

[Kumori_Kumo]

The guy's already about-faced, you dudes can stop now. :V

[Lelila38]

I try to not pull first, I really do. Cause I believe it's the tank's job and they should decide how much they're comfortable with. But when I get into a run where the tank decides to pull every mob on their own, especially on low level duty, even I get sorely tempted. I'm a Blm gdi, let me aoe!

[Kalocin]

I mean starting with that attitude is poor, however, I do understand in later dungeons it can be incredibly frustrating for DPS to pull (I had a bard in an expert who kept doing this, and a dragoon attacking one group when I was pulling the next one) because it's a pain to regrab aggro and use AoEs properly. Usually it's not something you should say like that though, maybe mid dungeon ask them to stop.

[Genoreaper]

I try to not pull first, I really do. Cause I believe it's the tank's job and they should decide how much they're comfortable with. But when I get into a run where the tank decides to pull every mob on their own, especially on low level duty, even I get sorely tempted. I'm a Blm gdi, let me aoe!

This. Or sometimes you accidently grab a spawn with that aoe, or from another reason like in potd, they pop up and it's oh shit.

[Mnemosynia]

And the dps police comes in who has the easiest and most replaceable job in the game, tank asked to not pull before him the dps do and the tank is wrong? I agree with the OP 5second rule has been in mmo's forever it seems to be lost in this game. DPS learn to respect the tank and the healers you guys make up more then half the game you should be thankful that a tank is tanking for you and not some one else.

I've always thought it was stupid that people have this power trip when they play a healer or a tank. The stupid idea of "you tank it you pull" shouldn't be something you hold against your party. So what if they pull? You can basically take aggro off them with a single button press.

They were right in that you weren't doing your job out of spite. Adapt to the situation rather than be stubborn and have everything be required to fall into your perfect plan.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you can't adapt, you have no business being a tank, let alone being a good player altogether.

I liked your post so i can unlike it, if i make a request and you deny that request and i act apon what i have said earlier and i'm the wrong one here? Maybe the DPS should have adapted instead of just facerolling on the keyboard.

[Tinibou]

Can't tank a single dungeon in this game without the dps going in first. Before we started I told the group "you pull it you tank it". And that's what they did. And the healer kept on healing them the entire time. (Was in Sastasha fyi). And to make matters worse. They ended up kicking me for "not doing my job". I had heard that this game was in short supply of tanks and I can see why. The players don't let them do their job and get mad at them for not doing it. Time to roll a dps.

In fact, the problem is the majority of your other friends tanks who keep rushing all the time. Since you talk about Sastasha, maybe these players were new players ? I can't expect new players to do something else than rushing and I can't expect them to know exactly what roles are if they learnt how to play with rushers (maybe it's the same for other roles but I mainly saw tanks since... well... they are tanks so first) don't blame them (well, of course, there are assh*** too) and you should stick to your tank daddy teacher role, please, we need you