Silver chest farming in PotD, harassed by speedrunners. (More ingored PvE harassment)

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So if a member wants chests, and the other three go, "We want a speedrun. Get in the circle or we kick," you're saying that's fine. Alright. But if I go, "I want chests. I'm just going to peek into rooms since I need the upgrades," it's not okay, because I hold 3 people hostage.

Yes, if three people are saying "Please get over here, we want to progress" and you go off because your own personal progression is more important to you than the goals/needs/intrests of the group you are hindering their progression. It doesnt matter if it takes 2, 5, 10 or 30 minutes. In that very moment you are the one person being uncooperative.
Saying "It only takes two minutes to go over there and get the chest to be over with it" is asking the other people to give up on their intrest to proceed imidiatly - it takes you zero time to get in the circle and proceed with them, but that conflicts your intrest. See the problem? Its not about whos right or wrong because there is no right or wrong way to do this...

Again, I'm, personally am all for finding a mutual agreement or making a compromissive, but that requires both parties to see that they're not initially having morale high ground just because of their goal.
Getting chests is okay.
Not getting chests is okay too.
And its up to the people present to decide in a civilised manner what to do - and that might require both parts to sacrifice something.