Don't get the wrong idea however, I'm not saying that people are forced to dps.
I've just saying the current content is designed in a way that allows us to do so, BUT, doesn't mean that everyone has to if they don't want to, aren't comfortable with it or have lack of experience.


"In no dungeon does regen do most the work, like i said my g.f who mains tank, and mained tank over the course of several characters, Sits at roughly 50% or less hp in dungeon runs, and in a lot of cases mp starved because of whms holy spam when she needs mp and uses blood price."

Regen does a lot.
About Drk and Whm spamming Holy, it is possible to have a little talk on the party chat. Whm asking if he can Holy or Drk asking not to because of Blood price.

When I do dungeons with my Whm, Holy, Aero III and Assize are doing so much damages that trash are killed so much faster.
If I'm with a Dark Knight, I still Holy unless he asked me not to because of his MP.

"If people pay attention, tanks do loose hp pretty fast, even with cd use. Healers are just choosing to leave them 50% or less using a big heal after. Or they assume everyone is in top gear and shrug it off."

Indeed, but that's because that one big instant heal is so much powerful that it's enough. If the tank has low lvl gear, of course the healer should adapt his healing to this.