Please be kind - Lowbie dungeon mini-rant

[Azazua_azura]

No offence but at times people DO speak and are ignored. Like the case with what happen with me as a tank, the guy didn't give anyone a second to communicate, I would have explained the agro was accidental and am not pulling everything. People do need to stop blaming content for their attitudes. Mmo are known for being repetitive, forced or not. Content is Rarely 1 and done.

Also df is suppose to be all inclusive, dr is part of ff14 mentor thing, it suppose to reward people for running stuff. People just use it to farm. Thing is you can set up a party and run stuff, That is the purpose of it. If I recall correctly all Arr lvl 50 dungeons reward poetics, just form parties and farm them.

Consideration needs to go both ways, not just put blame on ppl not speaking up. In alot of cases people do speak up and are ignored, I even stepped up in my communication and at times it's awkward because it feels like people go "who cares" even got told off for "talking too much". All I did was ask what people wanted. And said why I was there and not to attack stuff I didn't pull (was tank) basic communication and most of the time I met with silence.

Like I said communication needs to become a thing... it makes the game way more fun if people work together. Getting very tired of "playing solo while in a group" and "does my own thing" mentality ff14 community is developing.


@ reisui

Thing is about the help is most people admit to forcing it. To truly help a person out it best if you offer to, ask if they want advice. If you give it out with out asking it is seen as an insult. People learn in many different ways based how their mind works, how their personality is and how they were raised.

For me I'd rather learn by doing, I'm up for advice if you ask me, as I'm pretty open for tips. Thing is I'm more a learn as I'm doing. Practice by doing, and people giving me room to learn. I don't like stuff forced on me, as it just causes me stress and anxiety (part of my autism). You also can't force a person to learn, if someone isn't playing well and giving a bad attitude and making your job/role much harder you are free to kick or leave.

Don't stop helping people over a few bad apples, that just generalizing.


@ speed runs

I wish people didn't force it, I wish thru didn't make it an expectation in df. Again part of my autism is anxiety, and another aspect is bad coordination. This really comes out when I'm stressed and having anxiety. Speed runs make me anxious due to having to be rushed, I personally make more mistakes doing speed runs then just pulling naturally. anti anxiety meds help as if mostly playing with my bf, but if I'm solo queing I personally don't feel comfortable speed running. I'll try if that is what the group wants but, all I ask is not be ragged on if I make mistakes.


If someone comes up and saying I'm using it as a cutch, I'm not. Explaining how a disability can effect you isn't using it as a cutch I never once played victim, and try to apologies for my mistakes.

Just to be clear, I've only been recently diagnosed and still coming to terms with it, and learning about it. Still learning ways to cope, and still learning ways to not have it be an issue to myself and others.