Hi OP! Welcome to the Wonderful World of Tanking!

It can be a bit daunting at times. PLD right now definitely takes a lot more work to hold enmity than the other tanks. Flash, while incredibly potent in 1-35 content, loses quite a bit of its comparative potency, and can make it feel like you're having to do nothing but spam it in between combos. You're also going to have to switch targets a lot with your Rage of Halone (RoH) combo. I usually like to tab between my opponents to make sure I'm not in danger of losing any of them, and cycle appropriately (just make sure you go back to the one the DPS are hitting to make sure you're not losing it, too). Using Fight or Flight (FoF) on your Circle of Scorn (CoS) will also help, but that only applies 50+.

DRK definitely has a lot more control. The job natively puts out a lot more enmity than PLD, and so will make it easier for you to hold hate. It is a little squishier, because the PLD shield provides a nice bit of mitigation against most trash mobs, but in general should be just about as sturdy (don't be afraid to use your CDs - and if you find yourself taking too much damage, just pull smaller). I personally enjoy DRK more, because the gameplay is much more engaging, and requires so much more effort to do right.

Also, regarding the Str > Vit piece - ignore it. This only applies to endgame raiding, so Alexander Savage, Thordan Extreme, and I guess maybe the hard Diadem mobs? But for the overwhelming majority of content in this game, Vit and Fending Gear are going to help you survive much better than Str and Slaying gear. And while leveling, focus more of your gearing energy on Physical and Magical defense, as those two comprise the lion's share of your passive damage mitigation.

My advice to you would be to stick with it, and if PLD doesn't give you enough control, try bringing up your DRK to at least 50. Run dungeons. Go with friends if it makes you feel more comfortable. But do what you can to learn the idiosyncrasies of the job. If at 50 you decide it isn't for you, then let it go - no one can say at that point that you didn't try.

Quote Originally Posted by shao32 View Post
paladin now is not boring, people say that because they thing dps is = fun, and paladin dealt the lowest dps
Paladin right now is boring, DPS aside. It is extremely boring. It is 100% the most mundane job in the game. There's no variety. There's nothing unique. You manage your cooldowns, you use your combos, you maintain your DoTs, and that's it. Both DRK and WAR have much more variety to the gameplay, and require a bit more thought for actions used (rather than just RoH it to death).