But that's just it, Diadem is open ended content. Why isn't it selfish then for others to try to limit my play by harassing me? I see both sides, I really do, it does mess things up a little bit, but why am I the one who is selfish? Just because I'm in the minority of ppl who don't want to grind mobs EVERY time I go into diadem.

Like you said Blitz, ppl in DF aren't exactly know for pushing good dps, so why then are people even going through DF to farm mobs? What's stopping others from making a PF for grinding loot? Because gathering isn't the "main" diadem thing? When your FC airship is out on a venture and you wait almost 2 hrs to fill a gathering party, the DF is the only choice, and that's picking from everyone so you why not be more mindful of that?