So, I just got Minuet earlier today for my now Lv53 BRD. Here's the thing:

I was fortunate to have a few people join me in testing my BRD with Minuet, without Minuet, and doing both; we chose Ramuh Ex. Group was PLD, BRD, BLM, SMN, WHM, AST, MNK, DRG.

WITH:
I bounced between 6th and 7th on the hate list, never dropping Minuet.

WITHOUT:
I bounced between 5th and 6th on hate list, never using Minuet.

WITH and WITHOUT (meaning I dropped it for certain skills like Windbite and Venomous Bite):
I bounced between 4th and 5th on hate list.

That said, I was also noted from the person who was parsing that I obviously was doing less damage with Minuet up fulltime. So basically, it seems that BRDs who are not stance dancing will not like Minuet, which probably explain why they refuse to use it. I am totally fine with Minuet, even if I don't stance dance it.