I think the reason why some people are bad at DRK is because they want to play them like PLD and WAR. This way of thinking seems to be creating problems because people don't want to change the way they play.

I bonus allocated 15 STR, 10 VIT, 5 PIE because of MP regen. Most all of equipment is VIT focused, but I put a STR ring on to help out with damage. My level 50-60 points have been VIT, but will be STR on the last few points.

I ran Dusk Vigil the other night with both a DRG with full BiS DreadWyrm gear from ARR, a BRD, and a SCH cranking out DPS with Cleric Stance. I had no problem holding aggro and the SCH had no problems healing me either. He never once had to leave Cleric Stance. Now, Dusk Vigil isn't hard, but, from what I've played, I seem to have found a good mix of stats and gear that lets me take some damage while dishing it out as well.