The big difference here being that FFXIV is actually now a good game and those games you listed are not and were not. I played EQ for seven actual years. It was terrible and the only reason I kept logging in after the release of WoW was because I had friends who played that I'd basically grown up with.
And the communities in EQ and games like it were extremely awful. Like make everyone in this game look like saints awful. I remember how it was on all the PVP servers where everyone that wasn't your guild/race was the enemy and how you could never, ever let your guard down. XI had no pvp so maybe it was different, but I've heard nothing but how it was just like EQ except Final Fantasy (and therefore terrible).
tl;dr If the only reason you log in to play a game is because of the people you play with then you should find a different game to play. It took me ages to learn that.