Well no worries; I suppose it is kind of my fault for bringing up mechanics when that wasn't the subject.
That said, I'm not trying to be mean but assuming G'raha would be important in the Main Scenario was jumping to a conclusion. Think of it this way... in the Iron Man movies (and greater MCU), you'd expect War Machine to have a greater role than he does, being equipped in a similar fashion to the titular hero. That said, we all know how Rhodey's been treated in the MCU: he didn't appear in The Avengers, had a very downplayed role in Iron Man III, and without spoiling much while he does show up in Age of Ultron and gets to do some stuff... he's the butt of a lot of jokes. The point is that, regrettably, our favorite characters don't always get to take center stage.
It is totally possible G'raha will show up in the Main Scenario. Considering how 2.5.5 breaks a lot of the rules in regards to optional characters showing up in the Main Scenario and vice versa (the acting ACN Guildmaster who speaks to Tataru and trusts you with her exam if you're an accomplished ACN, Estinien showing up and treating you like an old buddy if you've finished the DRG quests, and the infamous CUL Zombie Nanamo paradox) it's not impossible. Estinien even seems like he'll be a major character in 3.0. Anything's possible... how probable it is, on the other hand, nobody can say. With Eureka maybe coming into the picture chances might go up... but then again, they might not. If (when) Nero shows back up he could just use a few different / extra lines of dialogue, a la Estinien, if you've cleared the World of Darkness.
The Crystal Tower ending was a bit abrupt, but I kind of saw it coming. As side content they had to wrap it up, and that was one of the few ways I saw it ending especially after G'raha's "Now I know my purpose" line. Storytelling in 2.5.x was all kind of... off, a little... but even if nobody ever mentions G'raha, Doga, or Unei again, never forget their sacrifices.
To answer the original question:
Maybe. Considering how power-hungry the Garleans are and how willing the Monetarists are to seize power regardless of the cost, I'd say G'raha sealing it was rather justified... but that's just me.
No way no how we should live like the Allagans. They were incredibly cruel, and their tech bred stagnation. I think Cid knows this but it's not what you have, it's how you use it that's important. Kind of why he opposes Garlemald, since their "way" is essentially recreating Allag.
I... really can't comment on Eureka. It has no plotline significance and no backstory in III, so as far as content or it's importance to the lore of the XIV's world is concerned anything goes if it's added.