Measurements for DPS contributions (Please SE...)

[Delsus]

Double think about it, maybe it's needed? A good slap in the face sometime in order to make the player realize that he/she suck at something will force people to work on it, to improve themselves, to no longer be excluded from things.
It could be a serious improvement to our community and also raising the quality rate/level of party finders.

And this is the mentality that makes the community toxic. It doesn't improve the community it just destroys it. I have seen PFs with this kind of mentality waiting for 3hrs+ because of their demeanor whilst the nicer ones fill up.

Putting people down is not the answer. I have been in more 1/1 learning parties than I have 1/1 farm parties, then the one person putting people down drop, we rep and win. Moral of the story the people being an ass are probably the real third wheel.

[duceTRE]

I know you said that you are hard on yourself, I am as well. The thing you have to remember is to trust yourself, and unfortunately you can control what other people do, or can't control how other people react. It's content that requires 8/8. You're in it alone. Maybe a grp discussion is in order. DPS meters aren't necessary.

[Accolade]

And this is the mentality that makes the community toxic. It doesn't improve the community it just destroys it. I have seen PFs with this kind of mentality waiting for 3hrs+ because of their demeanor whilst the nicer ones fill up.

Putting people down is not the answer. I have been in more 1/1 learning parties than I have 1/1 farm parties, then the one person putting people down drop, we rep and win. Moral of the story the people being an ass are probably the real third wheel.

Totally agree. You often find the biggest ass in the party is the worst skilled player, and covering up insecurities by pushing blame on others.
For example I remember a tank that never used a single CD back when t5 was endgame, and became VERY abusive towards healers when he died on super moves.