But you tried which in essence is enough proof that there is a real community because people try in game as well not just spout stuff in forums we have a LS on goblet 5 for members of the housing district and we go do things or we don't but we are still working together.
I think you can not see the forest for the trees OP, I will jump in and help story runs in PF, will craft people gear for free, even help low level fates doomed to failure all strangers I pass by. I am not the only one because those events would fail if no one else stepped up, and this is on Balmung which isn't massive but no way small nor is the server all casuals or all hardcore. People make a community out of what is around them. And for those that say duty finder is an issue are missing the fact that the community of the game exists.
Reddit galmour community while I am not a part of is there and multiserver, this forums while it is the internet is there. That is what makes a community, firefly fan community was not known by even the crew of firefly but it was and is there. We have mathmaticians, linguistist, graphic designers, programmers, soccor mom's, stay at home dads, and even the accompanying trolls. All have some dedication to game, and the people that are in it (even if there purpose is to piss people off). So the community, the massiveness, the multiplayer is there. But the seclusion and separation of belonging and not isn't. I can't change your mind or how you feel personally about the game but white knight or hater if you look around you see what is there and destorying the community none of the functions are they just allow people to do things even if they aren't apart of the "community". You not ever being able to see them again is no different then me helping you and then leaving with out a friend request or another word.
So lets blame the lack of content that you feel doesn't reward you (force you) to be a community, not your assumption that a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common is not a community if its not also a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.