I don't understand...

[Foo01]

Then you have simply accepted defeat in the face of an insurmountable task.

I have not accepted defeat. I just don't require that meet us half-way as a starting point. I just don't need to them to make that leap immediately. Just because you can't push a string does NOT mean you can not thread a needle right? I can be more patient and hopeful. So it goes back to going slower.

...They are the ones in the wrong....

It is so easy for you to say some else is in the wrong isn't it? That is exactly the elitist ethos also. Always someone else is wrong. If you can't get advice to them that doesn't sound like an insult to them or why do they not accept the advice, then maybe your problem is understanding the human psychology of the receipt of the said advice. But elitist will never want to solve that problem, because it is always some else that is wrong. You do realize that their are whole research institutes, marketing arms, propaganda organizations etc. that has spent years millions of man hours trying to figure out how to get their intended messages to their intended targets right? If you are not getting thru to them, it is not that they are wrong, it is probably because this is a difficult problem that probably has no good solution. Calling them wrong doesn't solve anything. Telling them that they don't belong is just being elitist, and that was never SE's stance anyways.