As a healer how do you help under geared tanks?

[necrosis]

I would like to know how to reply properly to the verbal assault I get as a healer from under geared tanks pulling to the ramp in Longstop (Hard) after we wipe because I physically can not heal them fast enough.

Or the verbal assault I get as a healer because I run out of MP with under geared DPS unable to kill the horde of mobs fast enough.

[Estellios]

I would like to know how to reply properly to the verbal assault I get as a healer from under geared tanks pulling to the ramp in Longstop (Hard) after we wipe because I physically can not heal them fast enough.

Or the verbal assault I get as a healer because I run out of MP with under geared DPS unable to kill the horde of mobs fast enough.

Cenora Talvaul has left the party.


I'll try my best to put up with undergeared people and offer advice if I can, but I won't tolerate rudeness. It's very rare that I haven't been able to clear a dungeon with an undergeared or underskilled tank but I do try and let them know if their gear is poor or if they need to use their skills differently.

[RumiP]

Cenora Talvaul has left the party.

Basically this. No point complaining about abuse when you can leave or report it. You don't have to argue with people. Blist is there for a reason to if it's on your server.

[AiChyan]

Cenora Talvaul has left the party.

Sadly this. Some players imagine healers can invoke some IRL magic which would make any SR work, but thats not really the case. Far too many elements are involved but its so easy to blame the healer. I usually try and find middle ground, but in SR drama I just leave. Not there for the insults.

[Ghishlain]

I would like to know how to reply properly to the verbal assault I get as a healer from under geared tanks pulling to the ramp in Longstop (Hard) after we wipe because I physically can not heal them fast enough.

Or the verbal assault I get as a healer because I run out of MP with under geared DPS unable to kill the horde of mobs fast enough.

Further to Estellios' comment, get a tank you can rely on. If you can make the tank / heal pair, you two can generally compensate for underwhelming DPS. Yes, I know that means getting to know a good tank, but they're out there~

[SpookyGhost]

I would like to know how to reply properly to the verbal assault I get as a healer from under geared tanks pulling to the ramp in Longstop (Hard) after we wipe because I physically can not heal them fast enough.

Or the verbal assault I get as a healer because I run out of MP with under geared DPS unable to kill the horde of mobs fast enough.

1.) Those are terribad tanks, if I run with an undergeared healer I'll only pull 2 packs at a time as I know that's relatively manageable and it still gives DPS a chance to AOE if they'd like. Even in extremely well geared groups, I will never pull to the ramp. It is just not worth putting your faith in a Duty Finder healer.
2.) There's not much you really can do, though an undergeared tank can actually manage with proper cooldown rotation... at least, a PLD can. Hallowed at the start -> Sentinel + Foresight -> Bulwark + Rampart. Not actually sure if an undergeared WAR would work, though, only because their mitigation is more scaled toward their gear in speedruns.
3.) If all else fails, let them die and tell them they need to pop more cooldowns if they want to survive. Or just, y'know, don't pull the whole room.