Free time =/= Hardcore, I work all week at a demanding full time job and cap my myth with ease (as do many, many other players) so your point is invalid regarding that issue. They are not going to remove the gating on the top tier gear, end of story. In addition I'll take gating any day over RNG and random pop timers, does anyone really miss getting up at 3am to camp HMN only to lose to whoever has the greatest new claim-bot?
Perhaps you should level up and gear a tank job to show them how to do this as it's so easy? This would also serve to fill some of your ample free time that you stated you have. You cannot blame other players for failure to obtain new items and progress in content, there are several paths of gear progression and even though you can not kit out your job with BiS in a week does not mean you cannot have several serviceable jobs available. I have two coil capable jobs and I'm working on a 3rd, as we are on the same server I know there are several FC's out there you can join that will help make this happen.