A sign that I should just stop playing this game?

[Swear_Bear]

This actually is one of those reasons why I got burnt out in XI and pretty much every MMO I've ever played. It came to a point where my time in the game was already determined by others before I even started logging in because they knew what my window was.

The way I see it, you have 3 options:
1. Learn to say No. Your enjoyment matters, too.
2. Let them go -- find a new group, or even a different server to get a fresh start.
3. Leave the game -- be it completely or temporarily.

[Versiroth]

As far as I'm concerned, you join an FC (especially a large one) to be part of that community...if they don't help their members, what good are they? Why stay?

Well, they do help. Some of them are always asking if someone needs help. And they likely would have help me with the rest of the quest if I begged like a lot of people do, but I'm just not that way. I realize that they're all doing stuff too and it's not really fair to expect people to drop what they're doing every time someone says "help".

[Orophin]

I'll just mirror other people's sentiments and say you just have to know when to say no. There's nothing wrong with helping people of course, but you're paying to play this game like every other person in this game and there's nothing wrong with pursuing your own interests when you feel so inclined. I'll help people that I don't feel are advantageous (aka 'sponges' (taken from an earlier post)) as I know it'll pay for itself later on, but if I'm busy with something don't expect me to just drop everything to help.

There's no reason to quit playing the game if you enjoy every other aspect of it apart from feeling you have no time to yourself though.

[Pyretta_Blaze]

I'm know as someone who will say 'yes' to pretty much any request. I'll run anything, gather anything or craft anything you ask.
I have had to put my foot down a couple of times. Like when I needed an AV clear and all anyone wanted to do was AK. I ran a couple of AK and then announced that I was joining no more AK until I cleared my AV.

Sometimes I do want to yell "But I help you with stuff all the time..." when no one answered my pleas for help.

[PArcher]

SNIP

There's a difference between asking for help and begging; from what I'm getting from your posts is you really aren't even asking, or see the two as the same thing.

I saw you're in a 300+ person FC...honestly, there should be someone willing to help with any post-50 content on during peak hours in an FC that large, possibly several people. Heck, I would expect there to be many people looking for that content on every day, or at least every week, so you can all get it done at the same time.

It never hurts to ask "hey, I need to run X-dungeon, anyone want to help?", and unless you WANT to PUG/DF it, you should ask your FC for help. That's almost always why you join an FC of that size; to avoid the randoms. Otherwise, unless you're in it just for the fact that you're in it or for a few people you play with a lot (which doesn't seem to be the case with you), I have no idea why you're sticking with them if you're not being part of the FC.

[Hestern_Nestern]

Thank you.

I really appreciate your response.

[Meshico]

Kyah Almasy, I was like you FFXI and it did feel good to know I helped someone out. I'm leveling GLD for that reason on ffxiv actually to help friends out.

But I've simmered down some and now I more pick and choose. But if I'm on, (and not in a lowbee dungeon instance) I'm there to help ya, and then I'll stay in touch with ya

I'm Excalibur as well so if your on tonight I'll send you a tell see if you need/want help. Or just want to chit-chat

[Fenrisen]

The problem here isn't the game; it's how you're allowing other people to treat you. I used to have the same problem, just find your backbone and learn how to say no It gets easier after the few times, trust me!

[WiseWolfHolo]

Not alone in this boat, sis and I seem to get roped into things for being too "generous"

[Hyrist]

Kyah,

I left behind some very good friends on Excalibur, and I'd like to reference them to you. The only reason why I left was because I felt I had to condense down my hobbies and make a new start of things to counter what was a very severe bout of depression (I moved to an RP server.)

Anyways, look up Neelia Lyrahma of the Old Timer's Guild. (My old 1.0 LS, very low drama, though it's gotten huge since I left it.) She's the Hospitality officer there and the nicest Bird Lady I know. Tell her Lin/Hyrist sent you and she'll take care of ya.