To the OP. While I do honestly understand the concern of people doing this sort of thing (I'm not fond of it either) I get where these people are coming from. However, I run my own linkshell, and members are never going to tell that someone needs to be overgeared for content. Try finding a linkshell that has people that actually help one another.
As for the elitism concept? Keep in mind that some of these people have to push for darklight gear for many many classes that they play efficiently. to some, helping lower levels or newer players to content is a waste of time (though I personally do not agree, how will we ever get better without knowing the content?)