A few points/thoughts here:

First: I don't think your "two options" are the only options. I think by changing up some rather simple game mechanics and the DF SE could cut down hardcore on this speed run, elitist attitude. I'm not going to detail these recommendations because numerous players have mentioned them throughout this post.


Second: The "grow thicker skin" thing is silly. It's not that these things are making me angry in real life, or affecting my real life in any sort of way outside of the game. However, they are ruining the general fun of the game, especially end-game.