This is why the community/DF is so terrible.

[ispano]

No. Learning to accept the vile behaviour is the first step to keep things as they are. Things need to be better.

Being thick skinned and accepting the behavior are not the same thing.

[Tupsi]

Being thick skinned and accepting the behavior are not the same thing.

It is pretty much - Thick skinned means you don't let stuff bother you, which is the same as accepting the behavior because "it doesn't bother you" and if you speak out against it or want something to change you get told "grow thicker skin."

[ispano]

It is pretty much - Thick skinned means you don't let stuff bother you, which is the same as accepting the behavior because "it doesn't bother you" and if you speak out against it or want something to change you get told "grow thicker skin."

Except it's not.

http://www.self.com/blogs/flash/2013...cker-skin.html

Accepting the behavior means you think it's ok. Means it's acceptable to you. Here's the thing, just because you don't accept the behavior, doesn't mean you can change the behavior of that person. So you need thick skin to prevent it from causing problems with yourself. Doesn't mean you accept it in the slightest.