This might not be a problem with the game but a problem with you. A lot of people keep reminiscent about when FF XI and WoW started and wanting to try and respark that time they had back then. The Truth is a lot of us were immature and young when they did. Hell I was 15? when I first played XI. Its been almost a decade, I turn 25 next month, I just dont have the time to log in and play like I used to, its not that I don't want to, I just have too much work to do.