Marriage feedback [inofficial Poll]

[Colvin]

I do not particularly like my opinion being misrepresented. If you say your favorite color is Yellow and someone turns around and tells people it's Pink, you're going to want to correct them. That is the last I have to say on the matter.

Totally off topic but confident woman are hawt, and you are clearly confident. Take this as a comment that can be disreguarded per my previous statement

[Colvin]

Are any of the JP posters commenting about this thread in particular?

quite a bit, actually

[RoxyLalonde]

Heh, oddly enough one of the other debates was what to call the opposite partners... since wife and husband would be out of the question. So what we should call them?

[Shougun]

Heh, oddly enough one of the other debates was what to call the opposite partners... since wife and husband would be out of the question. So what we should call them?

I think the level of creativity for the word would depend on where lore was included or not and where the original name was derived.

[Colvin]

Heh, oddly enough one of the other debates was what to call the opposite partners... since wife and husband would be out of the question. So what we should call them?

how about just... partner?

[Colvin]

I think the level of creativity for the word would depend on where lore was included or not and where the original name was derived.

If we go with "hand-fasting" I could be down with calling my "wife" my "hand-maiden" ZING!... I Kid, I Kid

[Shougun]

Quite a few cultural institutions have chosen "binding" as an alternative term for marriage quite successfully.

Another interesting tidbit about marriage:

Up until as little as 40 years ago, only the woman was required to say "love, honor, and obey" in most ceremonies. Additionally, prior to the 20th century, there was no mention of the word anywhere in marriage. It is our romantic culture that has really altered that perception.

Didn't Final Fantasy XI previously use the term "hand-fasting?" This is a very old term to describe the old celtic rites of "marriage". This kind of thing is mostly practiced in SCA and pagan rituals these days; groups that are some of the highest acceptors of gay/lesiban and even plural marriage lifestyles. It would seem that since Final Fantasy XIV is a pagan society (no really, look up what it means), that this would be a good term to use.

Additionally, SE can go out of their way to allow players to run the process so there is no inherant game verification of sex. This way they can distance themselves from the modern issues and just let the players do what they want without assuming moral responsibility, which in the end, is really what should happen.

I know pagan ^_^ lol

And I am unsure what you mean by player run process?

If we go with "hand-fasting" I could be down with calling my "wife" my "hand-maiden" ZING!... I Kid, I Kid

lol! hand-maiden without thinking ... sounded good but now I'll never think about that the same XD.

[Colvin]

how about just... partner?

Although, on second go around... calling them "My Anything" is in and of itself a kind of Retro idea as it implies some kind of ownership. I think in a true even grounded scenario you would call each other by name and simply state that you are "hand-fasted" to them (yeah Im just gonna keep going with that term). That is if you REALLY want to get in to the equality of the thing.

[Serdapi]

And this is where I stopped reading.

Go back, read my posts, come back, give me a real response that doesn't twist my words.

You CAN NOT honestly think that I want to play this game for online fake marriage.

Sorry, I guess you didn't post this

It's like if I said we shouldn't have new jobs because I don't like them.

Good think you stopped reading if you didn't post that, because if you did post it after reading my post you'd feel stupid for posting.



If you did post

It's like if I said we shouldn't have new jobs because I don't like them.

yes people would think you play this game to get married.


Shougun this is an MMORPG but I'd hope you know what "role" you're playing in this RPG. You are a hero of the word in this game. Different people play that role differently. There can be games that are RPG's that have nothing to do with Rper's. But this game can have both RP's and non-Rpers. And as for the my statement marriage is for the RPG's still stand as correct. Please know what your talking about Shougun before replying. Thanks!

[Colvin]

I know pagan ^_^ lol

And I am unsure what you mean by player run process?

First off, im sure you know what it means but I always kind of reply to the world and not just a person. Having been on forums for so many years I expect people to jump on me for everything, sorry :/

as far as player run, I think you should just make the tools openly available for people and let them do what they will rather than having a "sign-up" system like 11 had in the beginning. EG:

1. Wedding Items freely purchasable from a vendor then engravable or alterable by a crafter
2. Hot wedding/celebration locations available for anyone to just walk in to with a party and have their own instance made.
3. Specialized crafted only items such as celebration cakes and items for sale via players

Essentially have the players drive the process while allowing SE to be as hands off as possible