Why do people hate being told advice/told what to do by healers

[Sunhwapark]

It's crazy if asking your team mates to use their skills in high-end content is now considered to be calling them out.

[DoomRyder]

I like players are so selfish they go into a team based activity and don't acknowledge their weaknesses and shortcomings and strive to improve. Why event attempt a challenge at all if you're going to get mad when you fail and others want to help you get through it? I'm reminded of my 7 year old niece who exhibits extreme frustration at not knowing a sport and being mad they're not the best at it their first attempt and throws a tantrum.
The difference here is I expect to be playing with young to old adults who passed this phase. If you mess up, apologize, ask for help if you need it, and try better the next attempts.

[Gember]

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You can try wording it differently but that's about it. In your example you could say "Hey Bob, I zone out and just use Shake it off too here, but I thought about it, and I think it would be more effective to use it here instead, what do you think?"

No matter how nice you word things; a lot of players will take it as an attack. Its not really a wording problem; its a attitude problem.

[AngaratoSvartberg]

cause healers are ussally the most scrubby annoying entitled trashtier players you can find. if people want your advice they'll ask for it.

[PercibelTheren]

After the healer strike embarrassment no one respects healers anymore.

If anything, the healer strike showed that the community treats healers like garbage and sees them as basically heal vending machine NPCs. The amount of "stop complaining and heal" responses to people asking for the jobs to be more engaging was actually staggering.

[Karious]

Why would I let someone else tell me how to play the game? I'm the one tanking, I know what I'm doing. Your advice isn't needed nor welcome.

[gllt]

Why would you ignore other players in a team game?

[ApolloGenX]

Typically healers are bad and have terrible attitudes.

Not all, I have met MANY great ones.... just an oversized number of them are.... it's why I used to play healer before trusts... so I didn't have to deal with them.

Now that the job is worse, I am sure they are crankier.

[ReynTime]

Typically healers are bad and have terrible attitudes.

Not all, I have met MANY great ones.... just an oversized number of them are.... it's why I used to play healer before trusts... so I didn't have to deal with them.

Now that the job is worse, I am sure they are crankier.

I definitely ran into the same issue. A lot of healers in the game have their head up their ass when it comes to DF behavior. Although it got a lot better in the last couple years.

[Sivante]

"Unsolicited advice is criticism, always."

You may mean well, but short of high-end content it may be best to disregard the desire. It is a player and attitude issue, but trying to find people who will receive criticism well is like playing minesweeper blindfolded. End of the day if you open up with advice that was unrequested, you have to do so expecting it will not be taken well. This is not the best desirable scenario, but neither is everyone correcting your play to their opinion.

If it's worth saying, say it with your chest out. Otherwise, meh.