Quote Originally Posted by loosie View Post
Yes, it's okay. There is nearly no penalty for death in FFXIV and if you wipe, that's fine and you just laugh it off and try again. If a DPS pulled, then it becomes obvious the tank or healer couldn't handle it.
There's a difference between failing to do your job, and not even trying to do it in the first place.
How would you feel if DPS players stop AoEing because the tank wouldn't get a lone ranged mob into the pack? If a healer decided to start rescuing players into insta death mechanics because the tank wouldn't say "Thank you" after every GCD heal? Hell, a couple days ago I ran into some lunatic healer who refused to heal the tank because he wouldn't pop his invuln on the last mob in the pack.

I'm saying all this as a tank main and I want to see people be nice to each other in Duty Finder rather than come with this hateful, arrogant behavior. I always try my best and I join the queue with the expectation that everybody else will too.
I don't pull extra mobs because I know the tank might have a legitimate reason not to, but damnit if somebody does pull I'm going to do my very best.
Honestly wouldn't care less if the DPS suddenly decide to stop AOEing trash packs. It's fine if the fight takes longer, I'm focused on keeping aggro, my rotation, avoiding AOE's without moving mobs too much and staying alive. You can say it till you're blue in the face, since you seem to be avoiding any logical arguments made against you point. It doesn't change the fact that 1 person in this party gets to decide how many mobs you fight at once and it's the guy getting hit by those mobs.