There's one simple solution: Accept that two seemingly different truths can very well co-exist peacefully at the same time.
I can be gay, I've had the pleasure and privilege of growing up with a gay couple in my family, so to me it's just as normal as any other sexuality/gender identity and at the same time, I can be against any and all political agenda being shoved down my throat in modern media as well as the forced inclusion that companies and industries only profit from money-wise and reputation-wise not because all of them are good people at heart with the best of intentions in mind.
I can have a preference for androgynous characters in real life and crossdressing activities in private rooms and, yet again, at the same time, I can be against people wearing maid dresses and other obviously (not subtly) hyper fetishized/sexualized clothing in an MMO because it breaks my immersion and I, for one, want to be able to take the story and my character seriously, not turning everything and everyone in a walking meme and/or a constant futile discussion about what's right and wrong, what's left and right.
Guess what, I want to escape realism and dive into a fantasy a world, not meeting reality's self created woes and short-sighted, narrow-minded delusions that don't allow any grey shades between their black and white, you're-either-with-or-against-me world view. Which is, now that I'm thinking about it, kinda sadly funny and all the more contradictory as the essence of LGBTQ should be diversity, no? And here you are, slapping labels on everything and everyone, ever so quick at jumping to conclusions, pointing fingers, playing the victim and spouting terms like "toxic", "-phobic" - and the list goes on and on - you have no real interest in or understanding of because you're simply grasping for tools and weapons to wield to defend your oh so fragile egos. All while watering down said terms, stepping on the bodies of truly affected people and taking away the acknowledgement they would really need because of your petty protagonist syndrome.
One last thing: Personally, I divide people in two categories only: asshole or no asshole, annoying behavior or appropriate behavior. I couldn't care less about your sexuality, your skin color, your origins or anything else for that matter. To me, the true acceptance lies in normalizing any and all variations, not by giving obtrusive spotlights and obnoxious mouthpieces. But if everyone is equal - which you claim to be your ultimate goal - no one can be a special snowflake anymore... What a pity.



