I really don’t know anymore….

[ForsakenRoe]

Yeh part of it might be the way it's being asked, or if it sounds like a demand more than a request. If you asked me that I'd say 'ok sure', but I'd imagine that most 'reasonable healers' would be trying to find a way to use PI Rapture for it instead, given that it's the same potency (600) and doesn't cost a GCD of damage. I have yet to bother learning it, so if it's super early in the fight (IE before you have no lilies generated), yes Cure 3 would be what I'd go for from the get-go. I'd of course be trying to find a way to not have to fall back on it, but if worst comes to worst, then it's gonna have to get used.

If I were in your situation, I'd ask it like 'What else do we have that we can throw at this, I'm using all of my stuff I can't give any more', the main thing with ego healers like that is that if you want them to sac their damage by using 'actual heals', they have to come to that answer on their own rather than being asked directly. Because they hate being told 'throw your parse in the trash for the sake of the clear'. Unfortunate but it is what it is. The line 'a clear is better than a wipe', for some people, just isn't true unfortunately. There are players of this game, who are not playing FFXIV, they're playing FFLOGS. And they would rather a wipe than a clear with a bad result for them

Essentially, we're so used to the current format of how logs show your performance, where 'damage is the metric to show if you're a good healer', that asking someone 'sac damage and heal more' is effectively tantamount to saying 'play like shit for a sec', and the reason it's WHMs that take the stance of 'sod the party I'm gonna DPS' is ironically because it's so GCD locked in it's design. If it started with 3 lilies like SGE does I'd imagine this would be less of a problem, or if it had a bit more OGCD potential like AST/the shielders to mix in. It's also why I wouldn't expect 'increase healing required' to go down so well as a 'fix' for the current woes we have, you'd likely run into this behavior even more often

Ooh, potential related idea: having every GCD heal prime the Blood Lily would be very silly imo. But, as a 'compromise' (we all love that word I'm sure), introduce a new trait that means Thin Air causes the next healing action used to grant one Blood Lily growth stage. So you can ThinAir a Medica 2, and not only is it zero MP, it's also damage neutral (once per minute)