Well, you might note that's why I included three categories (the neutrals) not just two.
Honestly, there's a lot of nuance. Most people - even on the negative side - offer some good stuff. I forget the name (sorry!) but the Hyur male with the picture in his sig tends to be fairly measured, for example. Some others CAN be measured but sometimes get in a...mood or something, and go from being generally respectful to being snarky bullies and get stuck in that mode for a while.
There are really just a handful, though, that are really nasty and refuse any nuance, call people names like shill all the time, etc. The problem is, while there are only 2-4 of those, they have TONS of alts. They also upvote each other's posts, quote each other's posts with agreement badmouthing people, and generally engage in short and really meanspirited posts of snark and memes, calling people all sorts of really meanspirited names. Because of them getting around the post limit and giving the appearance there are more of them and they're more popular, they tend to command the conversation for worse.
The other problem is the people who are critical but respectfully so would rather side with those people no matter how mean and harassing they are than speak up for their victims. This gives the impression to the non-negative folks that all the negative people, even the more measured ones, agree. Note here I'm not talking about agreeing with the hyper-negative toxic people on POINTS OF ARGUMENT, I mean when they not only don't call out their snarky and off topic attacks of other posters, but often agree with them, either tacitly or directly (quoting and supporting the attacks). That makes it far more difficult to believe those people are acting in good faith. It's like a political party with extreme elements and the moderates refuse to call out the extremists and, instead, support them and their arguments and attacks on people, even when their attacks are indefensible.
If the "We criticize because we love the game" crowd would actively NOT support and positively reinforce the snark posts, that would clear the problem up overnight. I genuinely believe that. Everyone would quickly identify the toxic alt people and disown them, and so everyone else could then have good conversations and the toxic alts would either recognize they aren't popular anymore and moderate themselves, go out of control so the forum moderators would moderate them, or get bored with the lack of drama and personal upvotes and depart. Either way, good conversations could then occur.
It really takes the neutral or "center-critical" moderates NOT siding with the extreme toxic negatives to make this happen, though, and thus far, they've largely been unwilling to do so. I can only speculate on the reasons (maybe they think it would make their arguments seem weaker, maybe they've bought into hating on the positive people, idk), but as long as the "moderate" critical voices continue to give cover to the extreme toxic negatives, we will keep having threads like this and keep having no productive conversations here. The irony is, it would actually get the respectful critics' points more likely to be heard by the Devs if they did this, but for fear of weakening their arguments or making their positive opponents look good or SOMEthing, they thus far haven't done it.
God knows I've tried to have nuanced and respectful conversations, had my posts mocked by the toxic ones, and then instead of the respectful ones coming to my defense, saying that isn't fair, and engaging in conversation, they cheer on the toxic ones posting gifs of babies crying and wall of text memes and the like. It just makes actual and respectful conversation impossible.




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