can we get idk More gothy/emo outfits/hair/furinture

[SassyAssassin]

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I appreciate your thoughts and let me just clear it up that it wasn’t directed at you specifically, like any mental illness, each person reacts differently, for example you have psychopaths going around killing people and psychopaths leading completely normal lives, it’s obviously not a one size fits all but even though each person with the same mental illness is different, there ARE things that are the same in each one of them otherwise it wouldn’t be considered the same illness.

When I said medical help I didn’t mean medication I meant therapy, I should have probably been more clear about that.

I too speak from a private perspective, I grew up with a bpd, it was hell; I had a barely even called friend with bpd who for some reason got obsessed with me and again hell, stopped contact five years ago and she’s still stalking my every move; new family member with bpd, again hell for everyone around, everyone I ever met that had contact with a person with bpd says the same things, its not a rare reaction or out of the norm.

BUT

the difference between you and most people with bpd is self awareness, you know you need to work on yourself and you do, but most people I met and probably others too, have had the same bitter experience. It’s never ok to stigmatise but showing data and learning the BASE of an illness is not stigmatising. People deserve to protect themselves from people with anti social personality disorders and they in turn deserve the same protection, that’s why Im sorry if my posts ever make you uncomfortable please feel free to block me because I don’t want to make you feel bad but I also don’t want anyone else to ever go through the shit I went through.

As having seen and experienced it on my own skin, I know it’s not easy for you and I am sorry you have to live with such a difficult illness that you must manage every moment of everyday, trust me I understand as much as I can and know its a million times worse than what I can understand but being a victim of bpd people is no picnic either.

[LianaThorne]

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Nah, no need to block over this lol. All of what you said is valid and I'm sorry that you've dealt with the worst of us on more than one occasion. It makes me sad to hear. I guess what I was trying to say is that people with any kind of personality disorder should be given the benefit of the doubt until they show otherwise that they are dangerous or have real chance of harming someone mentally. I feel that by going into it with your walls up and automatically thinking that they'll just be like the others, it harms the chance for the person to show otherwise. Do research by all means, but maybe wait until you have a real reason to based on your own interactions with that specific person rather than basing it on experiences with others alone. If you're doing it for healthy reasons, i.e. trying to understand the disorder itself and ways of keeping healthy boundaries then by all means. Just using it as a preventative measure and a way of convincing yourself this is how they must treat other people without wiggle room for being proven wrong isn't something I feel is necessarily fair. I don't think anyone likes going into meeting people and being automatically judged or hit with assumptions about how they'll act.