I say this not to blindly praise, but to relay my observation. XIV is probably the best you'll see for a while. MMOs are the hardest to develop and maintain, mainly because of how quickly people consume content. Back when EQ was around, there wasn't much in the way of competition for people's time. Now you have all this content available to consume. No one will ever be able to keep up with the ridiculous demands. You can be mad about it or you can make the best of it. I find gaming more enjoyable when I'm not mad.
I stopped playing MMOs around 2013. It wasn't until 2019, when someone pointed me in this direction, that I thought I would give it one more chance. (They really had to sell me on this.

)This has been a huge difference from all that I've experienced before. It could be better, but I know how things go, so I don't stress over little things. The game still runs well enough and I can still have fun, so I'll keep going. I'm not looking anywhere else after this.