Quote Originally Posted by lezard21 View Post
Today after we wiped to the Tank pulling 2 groups of mobs (not even a wall to wall pull) and the healer said in chat that he was pulling too much, I decided to speak up and politely tell the WHM to take a second to read the descriptions of Medica II, Tetragamation, Assize, Afflatus, Benediction and Divine Benison, that we would wait for him. I immediately got told off by the other DPS to be nicer cause the healer was "new". How is being a level 67 WHM with 2 other jobs above 60 considered "new"??
If that's really how you put it, then it sounds like your phrasing could use some work. That comes off as dismissive, impatient, and accusatory, especially the "we'll wait for you" part. If you have experience in the class and want to offer to share that, then just explain that you are a fellow WHM and you have some tips that might make things easier if they're open to it. And if they say no, then that's that.

Another way to approach it is to not single any one person out but say something like "Team, I see we're having some problems. Would it help if we take a breather to assess and figure out what we can adjust?"