Sorry can you confirm FFXIV or FFIX? It's just you mention IX in your post but this is a XIV forum.

If you're looking for people to talk to on Discord, I'd recommend joining a large FC and not a small one. Small ones tend to be quite close-knit so you might not get the reception you want. Larger FCs tend to have a more casual attitude and people sit in Discord to chat away.

I recommend using https://eu.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodes...munity_finder/ for an FC that fits you.