Heal more instead of dpsing

[TaleraRistain]

If it's a random group, they don't know you and what you can do. We show them that by the actions we take and by showing that we can be depended upon. You're showing that you don't have their back and that they have something to be nervous about.

Take your ego out of the equation and just heal them.

[Rein_eon_Osborne]

If it's a random group, they don't know you and what you can do. We show them that by the actions we take and by showing that we can be depended upon.

^ This.
Honestly, if you can pull off an efficient healing while dishing out DPS, that is wonderful. But randoms are simply...randoms. And sometimes they don't quite understand how powerful healer's kits & pushover the incoming damage in some dungeons. Having never played any healer/tank classes may also explain their anxiety.

It got so bad that i just stopped bothering to beg him to move in and just started rescuing him lol

One of the merits of playing with premade groups is how easy mistakes like this to be fixed by... a simple communication.
If it's with randoms, 1-3 first tries (i.e. single target heal them or with [Rescue]) are usually my limit before I switch to "You ain't coming here? No heals for you >:U".
One would say that a simple communication with randoms may also fix the problem. While that might be true, personally I'd not do that to avoid the possible 'you don't tell me what to do!'-attitude.

[LeonKeyh]

If it's a random group, they don't know you and what you can do. We show them that by the actions we take and by showing that we can be depended upon. You're showing that you don't have their back and that they have something to be nervous about.

Take your ego out of the equation and just heal them.

I disagree. The fact of the matter is that healing is binary, if they didn't die, the healer did fine. If nobody died (ignoring people who did stupid things like stood in AEs), then the healer is adequate. It doesn't matter that people are "worried" about dropping low in health, they need to get over it. It's not like dying in this game means that you lose anything but a few minutes to get back to where you were.

Now, if the tank died or the DPS died (again, outside of standing in avoidable damage), THEN they have the right to request to be healed more. But requesting to be healed because you're scared that your health is too low is not ok.

[ForteNightshade]

If it's a random group, they don't know you and what you can do. We show them that by the actions we take and by showing that we can be depended upon. You're showing that you don't have their back and that they have something to be nervous about.

Take your ego out of the equation and just heal them.

That isn't having their back. It's kowtowing to how they perceive you should play. You aren't showing them anything except how "right" their stance was. It isn't a question of egos but someone else dictating how you should perform. Your job as a healer is to keep the party of alive and DPS otherwise. So long as you accomplish that, you've done your job. It doesn't matter if the tank dropped to 20%, 55% or 90%. They lived through the pull and we continued onto the next. Them being nervous isn't my problem nor do I have to adjust how I play to accommodate said nerves.

[Satarn]

If it's a random group, they don't know you and what you can do. We show them that by the actions we take and by showing that we can be depended upon. You're showing that you don't have their back and that they have something to be nervous about.

Take your ego out of the equation and just heal them.

Idk man, sounds like you're trying to enforce a playstyle, which is apparently a punishable offense under the current ToS btw.