I just find it stupid people complain about roleplay full stop.
Setting aside the fact it's right there in the genre name, if a player is so offended by roleplayers' /say output, why the hell haven't they blacklisted the people doing it? If roleplayers are anything, they're consistent enough in their playing habits for a blacklist entry to be worthwhile.
That said, while Answa was a bit of a jerk about it, it is somewhat true that while we roleplayers have made it clear amongst ourselves and to each other that Besaid is where the roleplayers will gather by and large, people do have to have a passing interest in roleplay to bother looking up the RPC and finding that out.
Then again, you might think if people were so horribly offended by roleplay they might have the passing interest to make a quick check for that and all - seriously, '"Final Fantasy XIV" roleplay server' on Google and the information was right there without so much as a click further.
But, well, is Gridania dead? Ul'dah's crowded, sure, but Gridania's still seemed fairly active since I joined the Twin Adder and moved most of my activity there .. 'only thing it seems to lack are those oddballs stand around with weapons drawn forever and much in the market wards.