I'm being combative about it because I think the fact that you think we now need to ask permission from a tank to do something that's been the basic standard for their role for years now is incredibly harmful to the game and its future.

We shouldn't have to keep lowering our standards over and over because some people are uncomfortable. As I stated before, if past lvl 60 you're still uncomfortable with pulling either larger groups, either stick to lower level content till you are or swap roles, tanking isn't for you. Period.
I don't care if that's insensitive, if you can't handle larger pulls by the time you're 60 and more experienced you need to get your shit together. That goes for healers and tanks.
This is an MMO, a team effort, not a single player game where you poor performance impacts just yourself. Carry your weight and put on your best display for the team or don't show at all.

And I've repeatedly stated that yes, communication should be the first action taken. If a player is uncomfortable playing in the routine/standard manner with larger pulls then the onus is on them to announce such and request smaller pulls. If I don't get that New Player's First Time in the Instance message at the start of a dungeon, I'm going to expect routine play, because that's the vast majority of what I'm going to see.


1) level does not mean experience. a level 80 can be new to the game, simply from buying a 2 jumps and doing all side quests, and having fc mates craft them lvl 80 gear.
If you're inexperienced at lvl 80 you're bad or intentionally not learning content (which still means you're bad). You should be taking the training wheels off by lvl 60 (imo 57 with the Vaults, but others seem to think 60 is the ideal). If you're in lvl 80 content and you don't know what you're doing that's paramount to griefing the rest of your party in my mind.

And jump potions aren't an excuse, if you're using a jump potion you're willingly and knowingly "jumping" ahead of the game and the experience it brings. It's on you to educate yourself about the game and it's culture. It's on YOU to either spend time in lower level content or wailing on a dummy for an hour, and reading up of guides to learn the game mechanics. If they're still uncomfortable after doing so then it's still on THEM to announce their discomfort to the party and request smaller pulls first.

The rest of the party shouldn't be expected to automatically assume every single person who comes their way is going to be performing sub-standard. If they do, then the new norm becomes that sub-standard play and we'll see continued degradation of the community skill level and the game as a whole.