Way I see it the group sets the pace, if the group wants wall-to-wall pulls either leave or try, same goes for smaller pulls, medium pulls, no pulls, rp pulls, walking pulls, face pulls. If a divide is is brought up get that trigger finger ready and be the first to initiate a vote kick.

Normally when I am tanking or doing anything via DF if the group does something I do not find enjoyable I personally just leave.