Your strange hatred of individualism aside, I think your situation is not that uncommon. What you are looking for is a "static", which is usually organized by discord, partyfinder recruitment and/or linkshells.

FFXIV has the big advantage that you can socialize with anyone, without having to sort out those who will slow down content progression of more ambitious players. Guilds like in WoW, that pretty much need to be organized in a way that sorts out players by game skill and time investment, not so much social structures, are part and parcel why MMORPGs are lacking in community.