I was doing qitana ravel this morning with a similar story. Except healer did tell me to pull less, I pulled big anyway, I died pretty much in 10 seconds even using most of my cd's. I am pretty positive that healer would have barely been able to handle small pulls for that matter. I pulled big again anyway, they kicked me, got a second group in less than a minute where the healer could handle big pulls.
That's what I just do nowadays, single pulls takes waaaay too long in the ShB dungeons, I honestly don't feel like catering to low dps and subpar healers anymore, so I just wait for the kick so I don't have to have an abandonment penalty.
I'm surprised you didn't get kicked actually. If people are grouped up they usually just kick you outright.












